Parlez-moi D’amour!

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Parlez-moi D’amour!

Is a beautiful song written by Jean Lenoir in 1930 and made famous by Lucienne Boyer.

Translation?

Tell me about love.

Or as the English version of the song suggests, speak to me of love.

Now this post is not about the same-sex marriage debate but will use the controversy to discuss a concept that has been brought up regularly as a part of it.

And that is the concept of ‘love’.

One of the slogans used by ‘yes’ campaigners has been ‘love is love’.

Clearly, love is not love.

In fact I think it is fair to say that the issues within the debate relate more to human rights and equality than to love.

Human rights and equality are human-constructed concepts and they are beautiful ones at that.

However, a statement as narrow and simple as ‘love is love’ cannot possibly be adequate to measure or define a concept such as love.

There are many definitions of love that can be, and are applied to many different situations.

And the love that can be applied to the same-sex marriage debate is for many a temporary one. As indicated by the 48,517 divorces that were granted in Australia in 2015.

This is not the all-encompassing unconditional love that the spiritually wise refer to when they say ‘Love is the answer’.

This love makes space for everyone – even those we are most opposed to and those who have wronged us in the most horrible way.

It is this love that I stand for and this love that allows for compassion, acceptance and understanding regardless of who you are and what you believe in.

It is this love that allows you to look into the eyes of your enemies and say ‘I love you’ and into the eyes of those who have wronged you and say ‘I forgive you’.

As an advocate of human rights, individual expression and equality for all I will be voting ‘yes’.

But it is for these very reasons that I must also extend love, acceptance and respect to those who feel otherwise.

But when it comes to love what are we talking about here?

A love reserved only for the things we agree with and the things that fit into our own personal picture of how the world should be?

Or a love that makes space for all.

My personal opinion is that whether or not you truly stand for love in this situation will not be measured by how strongly you defend your personal opinion but how accepting and respectful you are of the opinions and rights of those who stand opposed.

Oh, and don’t forget it is our differences that make the world interesting and colourful and those that fight for opposing causes that allow us to fight for ours.

And to me, that’s a gift worthy of love in return!

With Love to all – no matter who you are or what you stand for!

Tim